Waking up this morning I began to think about how much criticism I have taken recently and how I react to it. I realized that after going through so many life changing experiences and getting through a lot of it on my own, I've turned a lot of those bad habits into a defense mechanism.
Yes, I have a horrible habit of interrupting people in the middle of a conversation...I ramble too much and stumble over my words.Yes, I say "like" like its meaningful. And yes, sometimes I act confident only because I'm really hiding my nerves. But those are habits that come with personality and it will be a long time before I ever get rid of them.
Breaking bad habits like having a defense mechanism where you sometimes shut certain people away from getting to know you and embracing your faults is all something we can work on.
Life is so much fun if you just get rid of the negativity, the criticism and the overanalyzing mindset.
The top five ways to reflect on breaking those habits are:
1. When you are nervous in a conversation because of the person you're talking to or it's the conversation you are having. Think for a moment, let them talk and breathe. I noticed when I ramble it's because I feel like I won't have time in the conversation or I'll forget what I wanted to say so I am not even giving them a chance to hear them out.
2. At any point where you start to overanalyze, remember all of those worried and negative thoughts are just messed up scenarios in your mind that you are creating. Don't think ahead and especially if you are going to think negative. Relax and just enjoy the moment.
3. Take the criticism like a challenge and something you can learn from. Sometimes your toughest critic can be a way for you to challenge yourself and see yourself in a different way...even if you don't agree with them.
4. If you have always acted the same way and done things the same way, change it up and do something different. If it's sending those countless emails to annoy the heck out of someone until an opportunity comes from it, just do it. Sometimes what you ask for, turns into something different and you will be pleased that you took a chance to throw yourself out there.
5. Stop thinking that you always have to change or hide who you are. Learn to embrace your mistakes, your faults and love what you're good at. Sometimes someone is looking exacty for that messed up, rambling, well dressed overanalyzer who is always positive because they have been through experiences that have shown life goes on.
Just be yourself.